Big Brothers Big Sisters of NYC Needs YOU!

December 23, 2008

bbbsnyc.gifI recently received an email from Big Brothers Big Sisters of New York City requesting I take the time to write a post about them. I’m generally cautious about any charities that email me asking for publicity simply because I invested several hours investigating a charity in the past and writing a rough draft before checking into their distributions and finding them woefully lacking. Having learned my lesson, I now do things the other way around and get the due-diligence portion out of the way before I jot down a word. Suffice to say, if I’m writing a positive review about a charity here, it’s safe to assume it passed. More on the wonderful organization I use to that purpose later but let’s get on to talking about Big Brothers Big Sisters of NYC (BBBSNYC or Big Bro’s from now on in the interest of brevity). Please continue reading after the BBBS NYC address at the end for information provided directly from the charity including upcoming events.

Mission Statement: Formed in 1904, Big Brothers Big Sisters of New York City (BBBS NYC) provide mentors to all children who need caring adult role models - special friends who can help expand their horizons, realize their potential and enrich their futures - changing their lives. We seek to train community organizations in every neighborhood, empowering them to establish their own mentoring programs. BBBS NYC offers unique programs, tailored to fit the needs of a diverse pool of youth, including teenage mothers, children with developmental disabilities, or new Americans, as well as a diverse pool of volunteers, including corporate employees and seniors. BBBS NYC remains committed to expanding services, developing ideas, and making history, until every boy and girl who needs a mentor has a Big of his or her own.

While their mission statement hits all the relevant points, it lacks a personal tone which I’d like to provide from personal experience. As noted in other posts, I was raised in a foreign land while my father served his country. My mother passed away when I was 6 leaving me a severe shortage of parental guidance for most of my day. This was during a time before the hyper-paranoia common today when it comes to child safety. As such, I pretty much had the run of the base on which my father worked after I finished school. My wanderings took me to quite a few places I probably shouldn’t have been but the end result was an extended family of soldiers who all played a part in my upbringing. They were my unofficial big brothers and they played a tremendous role in shaping me into the person I am today. They taught me discipline, self-sacrifice, compassion and loyalty. I am, by far, a better person today than I possibly could have been without their influence.

BBBS NYC formalizes my experience by providing children with the kind of mentoring, guidance and positive influence I’m so thankful for today. The results can be nothing short of miraculous and the experience tremendously rewarding for both the child and the Big Brother or Big Sister. This is truly a transformational and life-defining opportunity in which the giver can benefit as much as the recipient. If you’ve ever wanted to make a positive difference in a life, this is one program in which you should seriously consider getting involved.

While that covers the mission and goals, modern American cynicism might have you wondering about the charity overall. Their cause is just but are they well managed? Do they do what they claim or is somebody lining his or her pockets? Rest easy; BBBS NYC is an outstanding organization with an impeccable reputation. They do good work, folks, and they do it honestly.

Charity Navigator - your guide (and mine) to intelligent giving - rates BBBS NYC 4 out of 4 stars. In 2007, BBBS NYC retained only 8.5% of its earnings for administrative purposes (salaries and the like) with the remainder going to the actual program (80.1%) or fundraising (11.1%). While there’s room for some improvement here, it’s important to also factor in their organizational capacity. While realizing only a 7.5% increase in revenue from 06-07, BBBS NYC increased its spending on the program by 10.7%. In short, to the benefit of those they serve, they managed to do more with less. But don’t take my word for it. Check out Charity Navigator’s analysis of BBBS NYC yourself.

At the end of the day I can’t emphasize enough my respect and admiration for programs like Big Brothers Big Sisters of New York City or for those who support and contribute to them. If you don’t have the time to contribute, please consider a financial contribution. I know times are tough. I know money is tight. But that’s what makes America great. We keep on giving even when it hurts a little. At the end of the day, you could be making the difference in a child’s life. You could be helping to guide a child into a bright future full of unlimited potential.

To learn more or make a contribution, visit http://www.bigsnyc.org/ or contact them at:

Big Brothers Big Sisters of NYC

185 East 85th Street

New York, NY 10028

Phone: 212.996.0443

Fax: 212.996.3538

From BBBS NYC:

BigsNYC has succeeded for more than 100 years in linking children to mentors. National Mentoring Month is an opportunity to recognize mentoring as priority in our communities and urge more adults - especially, men — to volunteer.

They are the oldest agency committed to empowering youth through a one-to-one match with a positive adult role model. Their programs have grown, not only in size, but in scope, to encompass the many varied needs of our city’s youth. Their programs serve immigrants, disabled youth, juvenile justice “high risk” kids, teen moms and so many more!  

The majority of at-risk children are from low-income single-family households where their caregivers are struggling to do the job of two. Many are growing up in the tougher neighborhoods of the city. Without an involved, reliable and caring role model, a child is more likely to take cues from negative influences. A Big Brother or Big Sister (a mentor) is a positive voice that stands out from the crowd.

Of the children released from a New York State Office of Children and Family Services Detention Center, 60-80% are re-arrested within 36 months.  In stark contrast, 73% of BigsNYC youths stay out of trouble with the law.  The cost of incarcerating one youth in a New York City Juvenile Detention Center is $588 a day, which comes to $214,620 per year per child.  

BigsNYC knows that no child has the same needs, and not every volunteer can offer the same amount of time. For that reason, BigsNYC developed many different mentoring programs - some in schools, some in the workplace and many in the community - to address the complex challenges children of today face.

  • We want to encourage volunteers, especially the guys, to step up and make a difference in a kid’s life, as well as their own!
  • Presently, there is a shortage of male mentors, yet there are many young males waiting to be matched with a Big Brother!
  • As we approach the New Year; a time of hope; a year inspired by “change”, we celebrate the Big Brothers Big Sisters of NYC and the volunteer mentors that have the power to change lives!!
  • Click below and support a Big Brothers Big Sisters of New York City upcoming event!

Ping Pong Tournament at Grand Central Terminal for At-Risk Kids

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Gone Fishin’, Back Soon

July 21, 2008

fishing_ps.jpgYou may have noticed I’ve been absent lately and the few of you who stop by now and again have my sincere apologies. I won’t bore you with my life except to say that a promotion to a new role at work has left me with far less time than I’d like to devote to ToxicKindness.

In addition to my day job, I’ve undertaken a new venture. Basically, I’ve realized that I don’t really enjoy what I do for a living. I’m good at it. I have a talent for working with people and I sincerely enjoy helping people. But I long ago stopped enjoying the field of work I’m in.

Join the club, right? Who doesn’t get fed up with their jobs. I agree. Only, in my own case, I’d like to at least take a shot at doing something about it and maybe help a few people out of their own career misery in the process. And, no, I don’t mean by finding yet another job doing more of the same elsewhere.

When you bottom line it, the companies we work for pay us less than we are worth. That’s fine. They deserve a profit, after all. They assume the risk of owning and running a company. They assume the expense of leasing office space. I’m ok with them getting their bonus. I’m not ok with the wholly imbalanced level of things in my particular case, though. There’s an imbalance in the world that keeps growing. The Haves keep getting more and the Have Nots keep finding themselves with less. Solution? Become a Have who sincerely wants to benefit the Have Nots.

I was researching consulting companies in the US and learned that a technology or financial consulting company paying an employee $50/hour is likely billing them out to clients for between $250-350/hour. Now, that employee probably doesn’t mind much if they don’t think about it. $50/hour is great money! But when you do the math and realize that she is worth 5 to 7 times what that company is willing to pay her, it deflates that bubble of satisfaction a bit, doesn’t it? And, no, that’s not my salary.

I decided my time is more valuable if applied to working for ME than it is when spent working for somebody else. I’ve also decided there are plenty ways to earn money out there and the internet is a resource that has made these options more attainable to your average person than ever before.

I further decided that it would be fun to try out different methods of earning money (on and offline) and learning from mistakes and experience (I love a good mistake now and again because that’s when you really learn things). Finally, I found myself grinning at the thought of how great it would be if my experiences could translate into learning opportunities for others. Wouldn’t it be incredible if something I tried, wrote about and explained in detail to others gave somebody I’d never met the opportunity to change their lives for the better?

If I earn a few extra dollars from my efforts, it’ll have been a fun experience. If I wind up earning a living from my efforts, it will have been a life changing series of events. If I help others accomplish the same along the way, I’ll feel my life has had a purpose beyond fixing somebody’s network a thousand miles away (yes I know the guy with the network problem is glad to have me around but that’s just not the legacy I want to leave behind).

I love helping people out. It’s just the best feeling in the world when you know you’ve changed somebody’s day for the better and that they are now likely paying the same forward. I enjoy it when I save an office, a business unit or even just a single person from some electronic hell they’ve found themselves in. But what if I could help a financially struggling family put a few extra meals on their table or to buy some extra toys for their kids? What if I could help a retiree who didn’t have enough saved in retirement to find a way to bring in an extra $20, $80, $500 or $5000 a month? What if somebody applies what I learn, strikes it rich and then feels he can finally afford to really make a difference with his favorite charity?

Money does not buy happiness. But to deny it is a vital component of modern living is to live in a dream world. When society has reached the point in which even WATER costs money, you know that the coin of the realm has been irrevocably interwoven into our lives.

So that’s what I’ve been up to lately, folks - building a new blog titled Self Employed or Bust with the objective in mind of finding my own financial independence and helping others do the same along the way. No, I’m not selling anything there. Every bit of advice will be offered free of charge and my earnings will only come from ad revenue and reviews (of things like books on the subject of finance). Maybe it’ll succeed, maybe it’ll flop. Either way, it will have been a worthwhile effort with some valuable lessons gained along the way and the potential to have helped others.

And if I make it… if my dreams come true and the hard work pays off, I hope to leave a trail of equally rewarded people along the way. All of them better off because I got a little too fed up with my job. Now that’s what I call a legacy.

But don’t worry, this isn’t goodbye. If anything it’s, “hi, I haven’t forgotten about ToxicKindness or the friends I’ve made here and I’ll be back more often as the ball gets rolling on this other thing.” So check back soon for more of my opinionated take on what a little love for others can do for the world. I’ll have more of it to spread around soon.

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Be Kind to the Planet

March 11, 2008

earth_web.gifEnvironment and conservation are hot topics in the world of charity these days. In catering to that interest, I’d like to spotlight a wonderful organization - the Amazon Conservation Team (ACT). ACT’s mission, conserving biodiversity, health and culture in tropical America, takes an interesting approach. They actually engage the stakeholders. Their mission statement follows.

The Amazon Conservation Team (ACT) was created in 1995 with the conviction that if international rainforest conservation efforts are to succeed, the active and meaningful participation of indigenous people is essential. The conservation of biodiversity is the primary focus of all environmental organizations working in the tropics. With the guidance of tribal elders, shamans, traditional authorities, and leading western conservationists, ACT has developed a uniquely successful and cost-effective approach that we term biocultural conservation. This ACT methodology incorporates the protection of biodiversity, strengthening of traditional health systems, and cultural preservation into a unified system.

I was really pleased to read about ACT’s approach to conservation. It’s often the case that western cultures come in with well-intentioned objectives and sweep aside the local population in the process. In contrast, ACT has engaged the native population and is working towards solutions with those to whom it really matters. Their efforts range from medical programs that place western medicine on equal footing with shamanistic healing to supporting Shaman programs through apprenticeship, ensuring that centuries of indigenous knowledge continues to pass through to future generations. They have worked closely with Indians from the Tirio communities of the Suriname, training them (at the tribe’s request) in western cartography and with western tools such as GPS to map over 15 million acres of forest, or over 30% of the Suriname. The success of this program led to the resulting maps being adopted as the official government maps. Other tribal communities expressed interest in the results and Kwamalasamutu Indians travel to share their knowledge and techniques.

In the interest of brevity, I’ll leave it to you to visit ACT and read about the wonderful programs they are engaged in. It’s worth your time. If you have concerns about how your money might be spent, Charity Navigator has rated ACT with 4 stars, their highest rating, for both the merit of their programs and their responsible use of donations. You can rest assured that the money you choose to contribute will be spent wisely and heavily weighted towards useful programs rather than overhead and administrative costs.

Please pay ACT a visit and consider a contribution today. This isn’t just about environmentalism or the hottest trend in environmental politics. Regardless your political position, the rainforests and cultures that call them home are worth your time. Even if you discount the forest’s beauty, diverse wildlife and the rich history of the indigenous peoples, the cure for the disease that could someday threaten the life of somebody you love might be hiding in some obscure corner of the rainforest just waiting to be found. Help to save something very much worth saving. You can find ACT’s donation page here.

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Choosing the Right Charity

March 9, 2008

closerlook.gifI was once a routine contributor to a now defunct charity. The cause, in support of handicapped Americans, certainly seemed just enough. They didn’t ask for much and they made it easy to give. So I willingly parted with money I probably needed as much as those to whom I was giving (times were tight back then). It was a year or two after I started giving that I just happened to catch a news story in which this specific charitable organization was mentioned, along with several others. The story was on charity fraud. It was damning, the evidence solid and, soon after airing, the scam-artists quietly crept away never to bother me for a handout again. I felt violated.

What differentiates my story from what many Americans experience is that I happened to learn the truth by chance. Most never do learn what happens with the money they so generously give (to the tune of about $100 Billion in the US) every year. But there’s a way to ensure that your money is going where it is most needed and all it takes is a little advance research on your part. Charity Navigator, marketing themselves as America’s largest charity evaluator, is our recommended source. They’ll help you decide which charity is the right one for you. My advice - pay particular attention to how much of your contribution goes to programs rather than overhead.

Don’t stop giving out of concern for how your contribution will be used. Just do a few minutes of research and give wisely.

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